Wisdom comes not from one source but by a lifetime of experience and humility!

cds We all make mistakes and hopefully learn from those mistakes. In my life, I have found that if I surround myself with those people who exemplify how I want to be, my role models and mentors, I raise the quality of my own life and effectiveness. I also read books about people who have learned to conquer adversity, people who are devoted to serving others. These books give me strength, perspective and inspiration.

Most everything I have learned from the school of hard knocks and I am still learning every day from each person I come in contact with. I am not perfect and I am not an expert in every area, though I do have a unique perspective from the variety of educational and training experiences I have had, and from the multitude of homes, countries and socioeconomic situations I have been in. Each person, each family, each community and country offers its own special wisdom that becomes my own as I absorb it. I like to think that if something is working, it is worth investigating and learning from. When a culture has children who suffer from high rates of depression and another does not, I want to know why. I figure out what the key ingredients are and then bring that wisdom to the society and the people in need.

I look forward to your questions and to the challenge of learning more as I share what I know and am continuing to explore.

Granny Pants

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April 8, 2011. Tags: , . Breastfeeding, Children, Diabetes, Grandparents, Health+Children, Healthy+kids, Parenting, Parenting Advice, parents, Uncategorized. 2 comments.

An Invitation to visit Granny Pants’ Daily Parenting Tips on Facebook

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Granny Pants & Hudson (grandbaby #7)

In order to scale down my online time and to be more effective and helpful to parents on a daily basis, I have moved away from this blogsite. You are invited to preview my Facebook Page: Granny Pants’ Daily Parenting Tips at http://GPDPT.com   

I now have parents from 9 countries following my daily tips!  Come and join our awesome group. (There is no solicitation involved, only sharing.) If you like what you see, become a follower and get Granny Pants’ Daily Parenting Tips on your Facebook page to read and share with other parents as you see fit.

These are not trendy tips that will be here today and found out to be disastrous for our children and society tomorrow!  Granny Pants’ Daily Parenting Tips come from a preventive philosophy developed over 35+ years of experience  teaching, raising, and caring  for children of all ages from across the globe. 

Tips are also aligned with my book, The New Physics of Childhood: Replacing Modern Myths with Simple Strategies.

Parenting does not have to be as complicated as we make it out to be sometimes. When we focus on the basics, our children won’t exhibit many of the symptoms that DO complicate family life!  

See you on Facebook!  “Celebrate Every Day!”

Granny Pants

June 4, 2010. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , , . America's+Best+Idea, Babies, Breastfeeding, Children, Cooking, Diabetes, Facebook Pages, Grandparents, Health+Children, Healthy+kids, La+Leche+League+International, nature, Nutrition, Obesity, Parenting, parents, Prevention, Recipes, school children. Leave a comment.

10 Ways Every Adult Can Support a Breastfeeding Mother!

In 2010, The US Surgeon General urged everyone to support breastfeeding because the people in a home, workplace and community are the prime factors in her breastfeeding success or failure!  We now know that there are even more reasons to support breastfeeding . It is up to each of us in this American Culture to support the mother who is nurturing and nourishing her child in the best way possible! In 2009, I published the list below which has been updated in 2012.

“1. WHENEVER YOU SEE A NURSING MOTHER, PRAISE HER FOR HER CHOICE TO BREASTFEED. For new mothers, the first few weeks can be a challenging adjustment, but difficulties do not mean failure. Persistence will result in success and many, many precious moments. (If a new mother has questions or doubts, encourage her to seek help from informed and knowledgeable professionals or successful, experienced nursing mothers instead of from trendy blog posts or mothers who did not have breastfeeding success. For a mother to be successful, she needs information from those who were also successful; even if it means working through challenges. (For a reputable site, go to: http://www.llli.org/ or help the new mother find a certified lactation consultant in her area).

2. BE AWARE THAT THERE CAN BE RISKS IN INTRODUCING ANYTHING OTHER THAN BREASTMILK DURING THE FIRST SIX MONTHS. Risks may include a higher incidence of illnesses, ear infections, all allergies, obesity, diabetes, diarrhea, malnutrition, and Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS) as well as a host of digestive disorders. (American Academy of Pediatrics Statement on Breastfeeding)

3. REINFORCE MOTHER THAT SHE HAS PLENTY OF MILK FOR HER BABY. Remind her that breast milk is produced by supply and demand. Supplementing her baby with other fluids will reduce a mother’s milk supply. Plenty of healthy fluids help mother produce plenty of milk. Developing an adequate milk supply could be as simple as ensuring that baby is latched on to breast correctly to stimulate milk production. Because we as a culture in the US are not accustomed to seeing women breastfeed, many new mothers do not realize just what a good latch looks like!

4. PROVIDE NURSING MOTHERS WITH A COMFORTABLE & SUPPORTIVE PLACE TO FEED her baby without shame or self-consciousness—even in public. The more we can help mothers feel comfortable feeding their babies in public, the better fed our babies will be! You wouldn’t want to eat your lunch in a toilet stall, would you? Why should we expect a baby to do this then!

5. OFFER TO HELP MOTHERS WITH NON-FEEDING NECESSITIES like cooking, cleaning, and shopping so mothers can rest and enjoy dedicated feeding and crucial bonding moments with their babies. The best way for a mother to develop confidence in her mothering instincts and breastfeeding abilities is to practice, not to have others practice!

6. INSIST THAT ALL THOSE AROUND A MOTHER REFRAIN FROM CONVERSATIONS THAT INSTILL DOUBT IN HER MILK SUPPLY. If a mother is feeling nervous, frustrated, inadequate, or fearful that she is starving her baby, her ‘let-down reflex’ may not release her milk, due to a stress response—even when she has plenty of milk! Babies with a higher need to suck are not necessarily hungry and may benefit from more frequent feedings and/or a frontal baby carrier in-between feedings. Some babies do well just nursing on one side per feeding to satisfy their sucking needs.

7. ENCOURAGE A MOTHER TO EXTEND HER TIME AT HOME WITH HER BABY BEFORE RETURNING TO WORK. Encourage mother to continue nursing while working with a breast pump and supportive caregivers/employers. Many states have laws that protect breastfeeding/working mothers and many laws are changing today to encourage this practice.

8. PLAN AHEAD FOR TRAVEL STOPS during outings, vacations, or extended travel. Normal stops are about every two hours for feedings and diaper changes.

9. VISIT THE MOTHER AT HOME. Bring the entertainment to Mom, or make it easy for her to get out with her baby. Do not pressure a mother to leave her baby at home during feeding times.

10. ALWAYS TELL A BREASTFEEDING MOTHER THAT SHE LOOKS GORGEOUS. Maintain a socially acceptable attitude towards a mother’s body image and physiological changes during the breastfeeding period because this first year is the most important investment in a child’s health and development.

REMEMBER: PLENTY of REST, PLENTY of FLUIDS, A GOOD LATCH, FREQUENT NURSING, and ABOVE ALL a SUPPORTIVE ENVIRONMENT WILL HELP MOM & BABY THRIVE in THEIR NEW RELATIONSHIP.”

From Chapter 3

THE NEW PHYSICS OF CHILDHOOD: Replacing Modern Myths with Simple Strategies

by Christina Ivazes, a.k.a. Granny Pants © 2009

Christina Ivazes is a mother of three grown daughters, a grandmother of eight, all of whom were breastfed. Christina had two homebirths and attended the births of 7 of her grandchildren. She is a former La Leche League Leader and is currently studying to become a Certified Lactation Educator while she attends graduate school at San Francisco State University in California.

Please pass this important information on to anyone you feel will benefit, while respecting copyright laws.

http://thenewphysicsofchildhood.com/

April 3, 2010. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , . Babies, Breastfeeding, Children, Diabetes, Grandparents, Health+Children, Healthy+kids, La+Leche+League+International, Nutrition, Obesity, Parenting, parents, Prevention, Uncategorized. 2 comments.

HANDS-DOWN: THE BEST ENVIRONMENTAL CHOICE FOR ALL!

Environmentally Friendly Choice

This poster is awesome! It says it all! These are available through the following link: http://www.mumsmilk.org/posters.htm  THIS is the kind of thing we should be seeing on billboards, don’t you think? There are also many other precious posters available through the Australian Breastfeeding Association.

Enjoy! Spread the Good Word and Spread these Precious Images!  These days, it seems I am back in breastfeeding la la land! As my life with children continually passes through many phases from pregnancy through the teenage years, all I can say about this current moment is Sweet, Sweet, Sweet and how lucky and blessed I am!

Granny Pants

http://TheNewPhysicsofChildhood.com

November 7, 2009. Tags: , , , , , , . Babies, Breastfeeding, Children, Diabetes, Grandparents, Health+Children, Healthy+kids, La+Leche+League+International, nature, Nutrition, Obesity, Parenting, parents, Prevention, Uncategorized. 2 comments.

10 Ways Every Adult Can Support a Breastfeeding Mother

 

People in a Mother's Environment Influence Her Breastfeeding Success or Failure

People in a Mother's Environment Influence Her Breastfeeding Success or Failure

“1. WHENEVER YOU SEE A NURSING MOTHER,  PRAISE HER FOR HER CHOICE TO BREASTFEED. For new mothers, the first few weeks can be a challenging adjustment, but difficulties do not mean failure. Persistence will result in success and many, many precious moments. (If a new mother has questions or doubts, encourage her to seek help from informed and knowledgeable professionals or successful, experienced nursing mothers instead of from trendy blog posts or mothers who did not have breastfeeding success. (For a reputable site, go to: http://www.llli.org/)

2. BE AWARE THAT THERE CAN BE RISKS IN INTRODUCING ANYTHING OTHER THAN BREASTMILK DURING THE FIRST SIX MONTHS. Risks may include a higher incidence of illnesses, ear infections, all allergies, obesity, diabetes, diarrhea, malnutrition, and Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS).

3. REINFORCE MOTHER THAT SHE HAS  PLENTY  OF MILK FOR HER BABY. Remind her that breast milk is produced by supply and demand. Supplementing her baby with other fluids will reduce a mother’s milk supply. Plenty of healthy fluids help mother produce plenty of milk. (Offer a breastfeeding mother a glass of water, milk, or juice every time she sits down to nurse.)

4. PROVIDE NURSING MOTHERS WITH A COMFORTABLE & SUPPORTIVE PLACE TO FEED her baby without shame or self-consciousness—even in public.

5. OFFER TO HELP MOTHERS WITH NON-FEEDING NECESSITIES like cooking, cleaning, and shopping so mothers can rest and enjoy dedicated feeding and crucial bonding moments with their babies.

6. INSIST THAT ALL THOSE AROUND A MOTHER  REFRAIN  FROM CONVERSATIONS THAT INSTILL DOUBT IN HER MILK SUPPLY. If a mother is feeling nervous, frustrated, inadequate, or fearful that she is starving her baby, her ‘let-down reflex’ may not release her milk, due to a stress response—even when she has plenty of milk! Babies with a higher need to suck are not necessarily hungry and may benefit from a pacifier or a frontal baby carrier in-between feedings.

7.  ENCOURAGE A MOTHER TO EXTEND HER TIME AT HOME WITH HER BABY BEFORE RETURNING TO WORK. Encourage mother to continue nursing while working with a breast pump and supportive caregivers/employers.

8.  PLAN AHEAD FOR TRAVEL STOPS during outings, vacations, or extended travel. Normal stops are about every two hours for feedings and diaper changes.

9. VISIT THE MOTHER AT HOME. Bring the entertainment to Mom, or make it easy for her to get out with her baby. Do not pressure a mother to leave her baby at home during feeding times.

10. ALWAYS TELL A BREASTFEEDING MOTHER THAT SHE LOOKS GORGEOUS. Maintain a socially acceptable attitude towards a mother’s body image and physiological changes during the breastfeeding period because this first year is the most important investment in a child’s health and development.

REMEMBER: PLENTY of REST, PLENTY of FLUIDS, FREQUENT NURSING, and ABOVE ALL a SUPPORTIVE ENVIRONMENT WILL HELP MOM & BABY THRIVE in THEIR NEW RELATIONSHIP.”

 From Chapter 3

THE NEW PHYSICS OF CHILDHOOD: Replacing Modern Myths with Simple Strategies 

 

by Christina Ivazes, a.k.a. Granny Pants  © 2009

 

While THE NEW PHYSICS OF CHILDHOOD explores all stages of a child’s life from fetus to adult, Chapter 3 covers the many myths surrounding breastfeeding today. These myths are exposed to give babies and mothers a better chance to succeed in their breastfeeding relationship. 

 

What we really need to have healthier children is more support for parents to make better choices!

 

Please pass this important information on to anyone you feel will benefit, while respecting copyright laws.

http://TheNewPhysicsofChildhood.com   

THE NEW PHYSICS OF CHILDHOOD

THE NEW PHYSICS OF CHILDHOOD

October 22, 2009. Tags: , , , , , , , , , , , , . Babies, books, Breastfeeding, Children, Diabetes, Grandparents, Health+Children, Healthy+kids, La+Leche+League+International, Nutrition, Obesity, Parenting, parents, Prevention, school children, Uncategorized. 1 comment.

The “Toe Sugar” That Just Keeps on Givin’

Twinkle Toes

Twinkle Toes

Sweet baby toes
EVERY baby has them
And everyone who spots them
Senses their
Delectible
Delicious
Delightfulness!
Nothing quite like them
Newly toddling toes
So full of themselves
They can barely fit into their
Sassy
Struttin’ skin
Without poppin’!
With scrumptious morsels in my life
I prefer to defer the winter cold
Which promises to deny me these tasty treats
When they are bundled and wrapped and hidden away.
 
Toe tastiness                                                   
A Single Foot is Better Than No Foot At All

A Single Foot is Better Than No Foot At All

 
A challenge to capture
 
Rapidly toddling from one thing to the next
 
Anxiously exploring every corner of their world.
 
 
How is it that each baby
  
Is the most precious and
  
Perfect angel since time began?
 
 
  
  
  
How is it that each
  
Toddler foot
  
In its chubby
  
Bumbling
  
Clumbsiness
  
Is the most
  
Irresistable of God’s creations?
 
For those who have their own
 
Delectable “Toe Sugar”
 
Please share!
 
This is NO contest
 
It is a forum for the blessed!
 
Feel free to offer your toddler toes
 
Toes on Blue

Toes on Blue

In a variety of settings
 
To offer new and beautiful ways to appreciate their yumminess!
This has been the perspective of an extremely biased Grandmother!
Granny Pants

October 8, 2009. Tags: , , , , , , , . America's+Best+Idea, Babies, Children, Grandparents, Parenting, Uncategorized. Leave a comment.

When Moments of Imperfection Become Blessings!

My Entire Brood 2 days after Hudson's Birth

My Entire Brood 2 days after Hudson's Birth

Elora
Elora

As parents

We try

And we try

And we try.

There are times we hit the mark

There are times we bomb out.

No matter how old we are

Or wise we become

We are still as vulnerable to faltering

As we were during those first years

Those first days

Those first moments

With that tender new life in our hands.

But

However things go

No matter how many mistakes we make

Let us always ensure

Our children

And our grandchildren

Know we love them unconditionally

Despite ourselves!

I am so blessed to have

3 Incredible Daughters, Roanne, Sara, and Amber

Who have walked with me through painful, joyful, and tearful times

I am incredibly blessed to have

7 Precious Grandchildren in my life:

Elora

Tayler

Dawson

Jared

Narayan

Parker James

& Hudson (who is turning 1 this next week).

They continue to bring more Love & Joy

Into my life than I ever thought possible.

And yes

I am still making mistakes

Even as Grandma

Even as Granny Pants.

But despite my many imperfections

Children remind me to

Retain my curious nature

To remember to always search for more

To never settle for the ordinary or the mundane

And to always maintain my humility.

 

I had a moment like that this week

It reminded me to take a breath

To step back

To listen

And to learn a lesson

From my eldest grandchild, Elora.

She taught me diplomacy

And tact

And perspective

And wisdom

Through the power of her written words.

Yes, all of this

Started with yet another

Moment of

Imperfection

But tonight

I feel so blessed

And promise to remember

Elora’s words and

Her wisdom

And try just a little bit harder

To be a better person

The next time around.

Thank you Elora!

I Love You So!

You are an incredible young woman

I am so grateful you are in my life!

Love, Your Grandma

September 11, 2009. Tags: . Babies, Children, Grandparents, Parenting, parents, Uncategorized. 1 comment.

The Backfire No One is Talking About

Everyone Wants To Get In On The Action!

Everyone Wants To Get In On The Action!

When something becomes taboo, it is normal for curiosity to follow. If a child sees something hidden from them, they naturally gravitate towards it.

The curiosity to know is human nature and no one demonstrates this better than a child.

When children are told they can do something that others cannot, those who are left out feel like the losers, even if it is just the ‘purple cup’ . They will try to get whatever it is, no matter how insignificant it may be.

I remember when my four siblings and myself used to fight over the ‘baby spoon’. Who cares! We cared! It was special because only one person could have it when we ate our cereal in the morning. As I reflect back today, it must have drove our Mother crazy.

We all want to have access to what others have. When we feel left out of this equation, we will end up focusing more attention on whatever it is we don’t have to change the feelings of being left out. Deep down, we all want to belong and yet at the same time we still want to feel special too. 

When a child cannot eat what other kids eat at school, it is almost guaranteed they are going to figure out a way to get that food, even if it means swapping, because the other kids will want what ‘novelty’ they have too!

When a parent has an ‘off-limits’ area in the house, a child will try to find a way to get in. Curiosity, the desire to belong, and the desire to feel special are powerful motivators.

Creating a more ‘matter of fact’ approach around ‘off-limits’ areas will minimize the attention they get. Unsafe, unhealthy, and unproductive items and behaviors can easily be avoided if they are made unimportant and unattractive by removing them from sight, sound, and suspicion.

Out of sight out of mind is usually a safer, more effective approach. Especially if it is combined with engaging, healthy alternatives!

Following this train of thought, isn’t it interesting that President Obama’s speech to schoolchildren caused such a stir from people who viewed it as taboo and against their political ideology.

Unfortunately, what could have been a ‘matter-of-fact’ moment became a highly publicized and politicized event. It garnered more attention as a result and really in the end, what was a very productive speech to empower schoolchildren to take responsibility for their education, surely caused some students across the country to feel very left out!

Is this really the result parents were looking for?

Next time a parent is so afraid of something they don’t want their children to be exposed to, maybe they shouldn’t give it so much attention!

September 8, 2009. Tags: , , , , , . Babies, Children, Grandparents, Parenting, parents, President Obama, school children, Uncategorized. Leave a comment.

Music To My Ears

There are a few sounds

That make me grateful to be alive:

The joyful cries of parents

The moment a child is born;

The sounds of children laughing

No matter what age they are;

The first time someone calls me “Mommy”

Or “Grandma”

Or “Granny Pants”.

But one of the most gratifying sounds

I have ever heard

Is the sound of parents

Tenderly caring for

And guiding The Apple of My Eyetheir child

Using direct, affectionate language.

These moments gratify me

Because I know that child

Will grow up feeling loved;

That child will have

The support they need in life;

That child will have

A better chance in every way.

These moments give me hope

Because I know there are

So many other children

Who don’t have patient parents,

Who don’t have loving environments,

Who don’t have parents who make them accountable.

Yet at least one more

Child in the world

Has better odds

Because they have loving

Parents

Who are teaching them to survive!

Yes,

Loving parents

Are music to my ears.

I am fortunate to be around

Two of these parents every day

At this time in my life.

Thank you Andrew and Sara

For taking such good care

Of my Grandson Hudson!

(Grandchild # 7)

September 7, 2009. Tags: , , , , , . Babies, Children, Grandparents, Parenting, parents, Uncategorized. 2 comments.